Have you ever noticed that when you are in a bad mood you attract more negativity?
When our hearts and thoughts are consumed with negativity, anger, hurts, failure, rejection, bitterness... it shows in our faces, in our mannerisms, in our actions and reactions. You know the saying "misery loves company"? That is what we will find. Company. Like minded people and more of those experiences.
It is practically a law of life, that what we put into the world is what we get back. We reap what we sow, but it isn't just in acts. It is in attitude, thoughts, feelings...
Coming from the belief system that I was destined to fail, to be nothing, to do nothing and that I was always being judged and rejected, that is what I found everywhere I went and in everything I did. Even when people were looking out for me, trying to help me, expressing their love for me in concern, I saw only judgment, failure and iniquity.
As I poured through personal development book after book, sought God's heart in these areas and reached out in our church, I discovered that what I was experiencing was in large part because I expected it!
It is funny how we can want one thing, but chase after another. I desperately wanted to be loved, accepted, to make a contribution, to help others, to be good enough... but I was defining my life completely the opposite. I was restricting my potential and my experiences because of faulty programming. I was hurting myself.
What you put out comes from within and if what you are putting in, or even holding in, is negative, negative is all you will express and in return it is all you will see, because it is all you are looking for.
I had to really passionately pursue God's heart for me, I had to reach out to others and share my story, I had start filling my thoughts and my heart with new, healthier, BETTER information, so that I could begin to see things differently. Only when I could see things differently could I dream differently. I can believe for BETTER things! I can reach higher, smile bigger, laugh more often, love more deeply, forgive quicker, and receive... when you are positive you will find positivity!
Before, self-doubt, self-hatred, insecurity, expectations of failure and rejection would have kept me from ever dreaming of seeing God's plan actually happen in our lives, no matter how much I wanted it. Now, it is happening, and not just the things I longed for, things I didn't eve know I wanted!
Like coaching! I would have never looked at myself in the mirror, believing all the hatred I heard on a constant loop, and thought "I can do this, I can help other people live healthy lives!". If I hadn't learned how to tear down those old walls, reject those old lies and start living a new belief system filled with hope, joy, love and expectation of GOOD things, I would not be any closer to living out God's plan for me, and I would be missing all of this JOY! <3
That is not to say you won't still meet bitter people, you won't still be told those same old lies by people you encounter, but how they impact you, how you respond to them, that will be totally different!
I want MORE out of life than pain, hurt and loneliness... I want to encourage people, I want to build them up, I want to see them succeed, I want to cheer them on and celebrate with them. I want to give my husband and children the BEST I am capable of! I want to live out God's plan for my life! I want to bless others. I want to be financially independent and I want to see the world with my family! I want to be the person that smiles at everyone, not the person in the corner, arms crossed, scowl on their face, daring anyone to come close enough that I can bite their head off. I want to welcome them with open arms!
What do you want? What is the experience you want out of life? How do you want your life to impact others? What do you want to give to the world?
Start putting in "good" so you send out your best! <3
Be blessed, y'all!
